So a bunch of the things you wrote have nothing to do with being nice. I wonder if you could provide a clear definition of what being nice actually is. Religion? Sleep? That’s got nothing to do with niceness. But look clearly you need to think about who you’re being nice to. If a person treats you like dirt, there’s no good reason you should try to be nice to them… So I’m trying to figure out what your framing is, because maybe you took some advice somewhere and applied it recklessly and thought you would get good results.