@evan@cosocial.ca > We used to also connect people if they used open-registration relays, but I just > turned that off, because people were surprised they were getting boosted: That's partially helpful, though you're soft-peddling the "people objected to me including them in my service against their will" as just "adjusting to expectations". But you're still not truly opt-in. Why don't you make it truly opt-in? Bridgy Fed has exactly that model. If someone is mentioned or otherwise comes to the attention of the service, and they have not already opted in to the service, it sends one - just one - DM explaining what's going on and asking for a DM back to join the service. If you say no, or don't respond, you're not opted in against your will, and importantly, they won't bug you about it if your name comes up again. And you can still opt-in at any time by DMing their bot. *That's* opt-in. "Instance admin signed up to get more content from the fediverse, so I'm going to blast all the users of that instance all over" doesn't qualify by a long shot.