Now I just need that kinky friend who is willing to take me on as a project, introduce me to practices, teach me the way, take me to places, help me choose outfits, occasionally remind me that I belong and put up with my limits (e.g. no loud bars or dancefloors). That's very hard to pull off in London where everybody is so busy (including me I admit) but I heard a lot of people say "I started doing this thing because a friend made me try it" so it must be possible. Any volunteers?